THE EXPERIMENTS • THE METHODS • WHAT I'M TRYING

Dating Methods

Because apparently “just keep dating” wasn't specific enough. 😂

At some point, I got tired of doing the same things and hoping dating would magically feel different.

So...I started trying things.

Some worked. Some got awkward. All of them taught me something. 👀

Okay...what have I actually tried?

Pick a method and I'll tell you what happened.

METHOD #01 · THE EXPERIMENT

🧪 The Dating Referral Experiment

The question: What happens when you stop quietly hoping someone will set you up...and actually ask them to?

I was tired of dating apps and wondering if there was another way to meet people. So I came up with an idea that sounded great...until I realized it required telling a bunch of people I was very much single and very much trying. 😂

START THE EXPERIMENT → SEE WHAT HAPPENED →

METHOD #02 · THE FRAMEWORK

📊 The RAM Model

The question: How do I stop getting attached to what something could become?

Give me a guy I like, a few good conversations, and a little potential and my brain can get...creative. 😂 Then I found a framework that made me rethink how quickly my feelings were getting ahead of the actual relationship.

SEE WHY I DATE DIFFERENTLY →

METHOD #03 · THE TINY TEST

🧋 The Boba Test

The question: Can something ridiculously small tell you something surprisingly important?

I thought I was just trying to get a guy to taste boba. Turns out...I was paying attention to something much bigger. 😂

TAKE THE BOBA TEST →

METHOD #04 · THE CLARITY LIST

📝 My Must-Haves + Cannots

The question: Do I know what I want before there's a guy attached to the answer?

I thought I knew what mattered to me. Then I'd meet someone I really liked and suddenly find myself reconsidering things I'd been pretty sure about before. Hmm...interesting. 😂

SEE MY MUST-HAVES + CANNOTS →

METHOD #05 · THE PRACTICE

🚧 Dating With Better Boundaries

The question: Why is it sometimes easier to explain away discomfort than listen to it?

I've had dating moments that weren't giant flashing RED FLAGS...but they did make me pause. The harder part was figuring out what to do with that pause.

SEE WHAT I'M LEARNING →

THE EXPERIMENTS AREN'T OVER

🔎 Currently Trying...

Something new is coming. Results? Ummm...TBD. 👀

Still experimenting...

I haven't cracked the dating code. But I am getting better at trying things differently and noticing what actually helps.

And I'm pretty sure there will be more experiments. Because, well...I'm still dating. 😂

HalainaMae's Dating Journey

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